What I learned from a month of pleasure
A month ago, I decided to only do the things that would make me happiest, all the time. I decided to give myself everything I wanted for an entire month.
I spent way more money than I ever have. I ordered food delivered to my door every single day. I went to my favorite coffee shop almost every day. I said “no” to a lot of people. I went to the spa. I spent $5000 on clothing.
Any time I noticed I was restricting myself (“Demetra, you don’t need that.” “What if no money comes in this month.” “You can’t rest, you need to be productive.”) I purposely did whatever I was resisting anyway.
I knowwww it was so risky
But I decided the old rules weren’t my rules anymore. I decided pleasure brought me money. I decided resting brought me money.
I decided to fully trust myself. Not 80%, not 90%.
100%. Trust.
When resistance came up, I used allllll the tools I use in coaching to integrate it.
And all that pleasure … all that rest … all that trust …
Brought in more money than I’ve ever made.
It brought me clients in the most fun ways.
It gave me the best creative ideas that never would’ve happened otherwise
It brought me the most beautiful synchronicities and connections with other people.
Pleasure is trust, really. Trusting that you’re safe. Trusting that the world will not end from you focusing only on what makes you feel good, on what your body says is true.
For me this was largely about money and business, since I realized I didn’t trust those things nearllly as much as I trusted and risked things for my love life.
What would it look like, if you were going to trust everything more deeply?
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