Tell your partner when you self-pleasure
Not because he owns your body, but because you do.
Touch yourself slowly, deeply, lovingly
Have long orgasms, and quick ones
Spend hours, spend seconds
Soak your sheets.
Say, I’m going to self pleasure in the other room, now
Not because I don’t love you
but because I love myself, and sometimes
I want to remind myself that my pleasure belongs to me
and I want to tell you, because it’s not a dirty secret
It’s a thing I do to take care of my energy
Say, today I self-pleasured
because it is my responsibility to fill myself up
with sex
and when I have enough for myself, that’s when
I have more to share with you
Say, I know you’ve been feeling less sexual this week
and I had five orgasms and it was great
and I loved the opportunity to connect with my body
alone
Say, your pleasure belongs to you
and mine belongs to me
and we both deserve to touch our bodies whenever we need
Say, when I orgasm
I imagine all the things I want
and I receive them
Say, today I touched my body
and reminded myself
that I do not belong to you
Say, today I touched myself
I watched porn
This is the kind of porn I like
These are the fantasies I have
I’d love if you ever wanted to experience them with me
or not
Say, today I touched myself
and I had this kind of orgasm that I’ve never had before
and now that I understand my body better
I can tell you what I’d love for you to try
Say, when I give myself orgasms
I remember that my body is my own
I cry, sometimes
because I remember women have not known this for centuries
and if my grandmothers and their mothers
touched their own bodies
gave themselves pleasure
they could have been burned
Say, I touch myself because I can
Say, when I give myself pleasure
I remember I’m in control of my life
I remember I’m the entire universe in a body
I remember my body is mine
I remember I can do what I want
I remember my power is at my fingertips
I remember my body was created to experience pleasure
it is my birthright
Say, sometimes I enter myself
and I remember the men who didn’t listen
and I remember that they are not here now
and I moan, in reclamation
Say, sometimes I remember
how he told me I shouldn’t touch my body
without him there. How he thought my orgasm
was for him. How he wanted me to wait
and sometimes I listened
and sometimes I didn’t listen, but I felt guilty
Say, today I don’t feel like being sexual with you
but I do feel like being sexual
with myself
Thank you for understanding
Say, I tell my friends about my favorite sex toys
because we deserve it
Say, sometimes I scream your name
Sometimes I squirt all over the bed
Sometimes I have many orgasms
Sometimes I have one
Sometimes I touch my body gently
and I do not feel like an orgasm at all
Sometimes I use a toy
Sometimes I use my hand
Sometimes I like the way I taste
Sometimes I create elaborate fantasies that will never happen
Sometimes I think the entire universe is fucking me
I love being my body
Sometimes I imagine you
And yet, none of it belongs to you
Say, my body is my own
Say, my pleasure is my own
Say, I love my body and my pleasure
Say, this is how I celebrate
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