I am often suspicious when other people tell me they “have” to do something
I am often suspicious when people tell me they “have to” do something.
Because it is rare that something has to be done.
But I have work
But I don’t have enough money
But this person needs my response
But I said I would
If you had a contagious illness and couldn’t get out of bed then what would you do?
If someone close to you was in the hospital and might die what would you do?
9.999 times out of 10 this would shift things for you.
You would have someone else do it.
You would say no.
You would say you know what, if I take two days (or months!) off the world will not end.
You would stop gripping to the scarcity.
Because life would finally be loud enough that you could give yourself permission.
You would finally have a “societally acceptable” reason to give yourself permission.
A way I have lived my life for a very long time is that I will not wait for life to make it so that I have a societally acceptable reason.
I won’t wait for it to force me.
My well-being. My rest. My fun. My joy.
The things I desire.
Are all just as important now as they would be if life forced me into them.
So if it’s true that I cancel something to rest I do it.
If it’s true to not respond I do it.
Funnily enough the more I have done this the more I see the infinite possibilities in every moment.
Nothing has to get done.
Anything could happen.
It is such an automatic thing now that I don’t have to think “what if I was sick” – I just treat my needs as important.
But I often think about that when someone tells me “I want this, but I just can’t.”
What if your job fired you?
What if you broke your leg?
What if someone died?
Because I guarantee you’d figure it out then.
Stop treating your desires as unimportant.
And look around at what other possibilities exist.
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